Friendships; Hardships, Isolation and Resolve

Friendships, often times, come and go. We never know who will stay around for the duration of our lives or who will be discarded by choice. If there is anything certain about friendships, it is that they will occasionally endure hardships.
What are your friends like? Do they reflect your morals, your values, your personality? Has a friend ever let you down, or likewise, have you unwittingly passed judgment incorrectly upon them?
When times get tough between friends, isolation or complete disconnection can be advisable for a short time; a cooling off period. We all need our space after a conflict, but that conflict is often times a message to ourselves that we need to look within, observe our own faults.
In a forthcoming book, Breaking You in the World of I, readers will discover that when they have a problem with someone in their life, the problem always stems from within. In other words, one may think that the friend did something really wrong, but introspection will always reveal that the wrong was planted like a tree from years long ago; during our youth.
People, friends, will always be exactly who they are. When we get angry or spout off our thoughts regarding that friend, we're really spewing our anger about ourselves and the inability to handle a situation outside of ourselves. We tend to believe that our way is always the right way, and until called to the mat, we may not even recognize ourselves as being out of order.
If one is ever having a problem with a friend, isolate yourself for a day or two and think things through. When we are angry, what we're admitting is that we've been triggered. We're re-living something from our past, perhaps from our youth. During any squabbles with a friend, the key to resolution is to not speak about your problem with other friends, who are then forced to listen, and often times, required to take sides.
Gossiping about the difference of opinions or verbally defaming a friend is an act of attrition in respect of the self. It shows a complete lack of integrity and willfully harms all participants involved.
Any dispute can be resolved, even if so simply as to agree to disagree. Searching out and thoroughly inspecting one's triggers to any argument or defamatory accusations are the absolute key to a prosperous resolve.